Mainly because there seems to be little to show for all the years of effort. Prison might have done Sproul some good. Soas far as you know they have adequate job performance, soso did Winston Churchill. I disagree with your lack of knowledge about addiction treatment, how we handle it in the church, and your theology. We met many times at a local restaurant after car shows. Im not so keen to hold the church up as a solution to anyone for any reason. The point of it is to not enable the bad behavior. Of course people have to want sobriety for it to work. But -I think you are over-selling non-church treatment. Bridget wrote: What I came back to say is that just as most Christians, churches, and Christian teaching is naive and ineffectual at tackling domestic violence, alcoholism, depression, and many other issues, that secular counseling or mainstream mental health treatment does not always work, either. Im not so keen to hold the church up as a solution to anyone for any reason. Heres where we seem to fundamentally agree: After the alky refuses to cooperate, which most drunkards do (sorry for substituting the Dark Ages biblical term), what then? That is probably because some of us have been following RC1 and RC2 longer than others. Then again for a period of time in my life I bought into leaders like these. So whether or not the church eventually deals with his behavior, his children have a good chance of becoming atheists anyhow. Alcohol can kill, it can ruin marriages and finances and it's a waste of Gods finances but that is all my personal opinion. A few years later as my fathers health deteriorated it was late and I was in the shower and I heard this crack and for the very first time my father called out my name in desperate need, it was in a voice I will never forget. This is a disease, not a moral failure. I have noticed that you get stuck in a rut and keep going over the same thing over and over again, even though you know the issues have already been covered and logically and responsibly discussed. or a swindler [scams, cons] Nobody blames him, but nobody fails to monitor his behavior either. Drunkenness was one of a number of formal charges that were brought against RC Sproul Jr in late 2005 to his denomination, the Reformed Presbyterian Church General Assembly. Is this ALSO the teaching of the rest of the SBC concerning Who died on the Cross? One may be a choice, the other, an illness. Basically, he lied. so terrifying. Maybe someday Ill feel comfortable sharing more of my story here. Thanks for giving us that information. RC Sproul Jr has been jeopardizing the lives of the public, his own children, and other people's children, for many years. This is not a hill to die on and one of the purposes of the blog is to understand the point of view of others. It is what the Bible calls for. I dont know velour personally but she appears to be as much a person of faith as anyone who posts here. I just see the hope really being in getting people like him into treatment, and getting treatment/support for their family members. I think theres a mixing of apples and oranges here, and its been going on since the very start of this thread. What that entails goes far beyond boundaries and often means marital separation, i.e. The point to this story is that alcohol, for some people, is almost invariably destructive and those that love them have a limited ability to help them. I cannot say Amen too many times to this. I dont like the other idea of other people having to go about on pins and needles because of my weaknesses. Your opinions are important and need to be validated. Im sorry to hear that, but I still do not share his/her, or your, interpretation of that. 14:23). That she didnt address him getting treatment does not necessarily mean she is opposed to the idea. I feel as though I was being unjustly attacked by her. As you and I discussed here yesterday, I am in agreement that Sproul Jr. should be terminated from his job because he is unfit. At the party afterwards I got to talk with him and the reasons I gave above are largely why hes returning to the Faith. But -I think you are over-selling non-church treatment. I have put your question into a draft and will get back to you, probably as a post. Outside help IS best when family members are too emotionally close to the problem and cant find their way alone. I know someone who has been banned from Barbaras blog for using the term codependency, which Barbara doesnt permit. And you spent time ignoring the simple points that I made, that were crystal clear. They were grateful that they had a place for people to go. I am NOT saying that the oppressed one does NOT need attention and HELP!!! I will not go to a church that has such Dark Ages practices. Divorce would go beyond that to Its the end of the road.. Maybe she was advocating for it to be done in public (? They were fine with either term but actually preferred alky. So in deference to their preferences its what Ive used ever since then. They loved her. Velour wrote: Having said that, I suggest you read the verses I gave (1 Cor 5:11-13). So youre uncomfortable with those truths. Gossip and Condemnation of others is no less sinful than is murder. View Esther Taylor Indianapolis And when I did, it helped. If not, see our friends at Ancestry DNA. and me: He sounds like a great big jerk and a control freak. That is also comparing apples to oranges. I think the way these churches do it IS called accountability groups where people are urged to confess everything to the group and Im not sure what happens next . Its not about hypocrisy, its about the fact that we all have feet of clay and yet strive to do what is right, stumbling as we keep walking. I really doubt most alcoholics CAN go to inpatient treatment for 30 let alone 90 days. In contrast, your experience has left you with a definition for the word that involves quashing any kind of disagreement with leadership, and shunning, and cutting off relationships altogether. Two days into it, I called my doctor and begged him to take me off the blood thinners so I could take non-steroidal anti-inflammatories (Think ibuprofen). She lost an eye because when her cheek struck the dashboard, the bone came out through her eye socket. ITs all the things! Velour basically verbally abused me in this thread, which is on a blog about Spiritual Abuse recovery, ~ironically~. Theft is a crime. People can discuss their thoughts and glaring hypocrisy so that what we are seeing with R.C. Though Im not a drinker. Apparently he was genetically hardwired for alcoholism; from his first taste of alcohol, he immediately wanted more and more and more. Its fine for you to decide that YOU want to knock it off. Some denominations have a structure under which an alcoholic pastor is removed and required to enter a program to address medical, psychological, and spiritual issues. Thats way more disclosure than Im even comfortable making right now. So let me start. H.A. There is a reason that throughout time that isolation and solitary confinement have been used in just about every culture to break people. Most alcoholics go to in-patient treatment programs for 30 days to 90 days. Given what a big deal his arrest was it's surprising to me there hasn't been hardly any further word about his status since then. His daughter, Shannon, born with Lissencephaly,died in October, 2014 at the age of 15. Also, we know both vehicles were traveling at 60 mph upon impact. When he hit rock bottom, and the family stopped coddling, excusing his drinking, he went to detox. Search Vestal obituaries and condolences, hosted by Echovita.com. H.A. Based on his history I am sure he did it numerous times without getting caught. But please dont attach my name to it and say that Im ratifying it. He excommunicates entire families for the alleged sins of just one family member. One thing I have observed if you let it, life revolves around the alcoholic! Sprouls problems and how each should be handled. Most of us are in agreement that Sproul Jr. needs treatment for alcoholism. Thanks. Let me ask you a question, instead, Daisy. had done, and he forbade all of us, his kids, to ride with him ever again. I, too, have been very disappointed in this thread. This often does not happen because money is not available. He agreed to go back into out patient treatment. Thanks ever so much.". Its too much for some families. In my family, there was a sudden death and one of the parents reacted with extremely heavy drinking (binge) and ended up with delirium, shaking, and experiencing auditory hallucinations and feelings of being persecuted a psychotic break. As far as CPS removing his kids goes, they probably wont as long as she remains in the household, unless there is proof of her abetting his drunk driving with kids in the car. The pain is awful, particularly when loved ones have been snatched away because someone foolishly chose to drink and drive. You may recall that he wrote a post about the Ashley Madison scandal, knowing he had an account, and later had to confess after he was outed. This is a disease, not a moral failure. The idea of just kicking someone to the curb and not getting them help (and help for their family) is not the Christian thing to do, in my opinion. Acting out is not a good substitute for the more direct communication, but sometimes the real story is so painful that there are no words. Thanks Gram3 for your explanation of the damage that R.C. as opposed to their christian relatives who have been strapped with all manner of convoluted *& conjectured* shoulds and shouldnts. I am extremely angry and jealous that I did not make the money he made. It is remarkable how LITTLE one can do for an addict if the addict doesnt want help. Im not sure about that. (Besides if it were my ex-pastor, and he was working with a sponsor in a 12-step program, my name would eventually make it to the 9th Step list of the people he had harmed and had to make amends to!). 1960. They see insult where none was intended, and are quick to react and hurl barbs and insults in retaliation. ), you assume that Barbara is against treatment and have gone on and on about your assumption without even fact checking. Jr's church in Virginia, Saint Peter Presbyterian Church. I am sure this gossip card is one of the factors that allowed RC Sproul Jr. to get away with what he did for long. Instead she said ha ha and discussed kicking him out of the church, complete with scripture verses to justify the deed. Overview of Vesta Voorhis Sproul Lives in: Sanford, Florida His addiction did not force him to drive, and his addiction did not force him choose alcohol rather than treatment, assuming he was actually addicted. In other words, my daughters brain tumor was a disease that was not caused by her behavior or the behavior of those around her. Alcoholics cannot be helped and wont be helped if they dont want it. Think about grace being the last act in the story, which I think it may be for us all. Also, that particular passage(I probably should read it again) does not speak of putting people out of church, only of believers not having fellowship with people who do the things described in that passage not even having a meal with them. Thanks for your response, thoughts, and viewpoint. Leave him alone! My heart goes out to you and your family, Deb. The Bible is much more complex than just a few Scripture verses on any one topic, including the ones you have cited to justify kicking problem drinkers to the curb. i think of my agnostic relatives. Sproultried to get this heard in theDrug Court but was unsuccessful because he was charged with felonies not misdemeanors. He was also arrested and charged with endangering the lives of his two minor children who were with him in the car. so he keeps the whole thing going? RC Sproul Jr was well aware of it but raised no objections to his continued driving. Vesta Van Voorhis DeKalb County, Illinois Deaths, 1843-1992 Death, Burial, Cemetery & Obituaries U.S., Index to Public Records, 1994-2019 City & Area Directories U.S., Index to Public Records, 1994-2019 City & Area Directories U.S., Social Security Applications and Claims Index, 1936-2007 Court, Governmental & Criminal Records And, yes, there is more. Yes it is. Not everyone has a spiritual gift to deal with these issues. Please keep our nations decision makers in prayer over the next few weeks. I would not call this grief. If you think that is hateful, your gripe is with the Bible not with me. And let me say one more time-you are so good at this kind of thing. 1. repetitive and in a rut Sproul Jr. didn't hurt himself, his kids, or anyone else when he was operating a vehicle in an intoxicated state. ALBERT SPROUL OBITUARY SPROUL ALBERT J. SPROUL, age 81 of Willowick. However, I do appreciate your emphasis on treatment. That would probably fall to the individual him or herself and/or their family. The Orlando Sentinel published a fitting obituary on December 15, here included in part: [2]. Few of them are willing and even able to do that. I need to be careful to look to Scripture for my measure of Gods Law for sin, not taking the measure from what people and tradition may say sin is. I didnt say if they should be kicked out or not. I have explained myself and you have explained yourself. In some ways being secular made it somewhat less complicated though no less painful. If you think gossip is on the same level, go turn all of the gossipers you know in to the police. No one knows where an alcoholics bottom is and what finally makes that person raise the flag of surrender for help. Weve already discussed this up the thread. Id say that was posted by a chatbot if it werent for the fact that there did seem to be some semantic link between the sentences. If he didn't lie, why would he later plead guilty? I also am of the opinion that alcohol does not change who a personal fundamentally is. Daisy, Enter a grandparent's name. That allows time for the body to get used to being *not anxious* or experiencing regular anxiety like being late for an appointment. As for Presbyterian polity, RC1 is ordained in the PCA, but the last I heard, he was the pastor of an *independent* Presbyterian church. I know that you have been negatively impacted by your family members alcoholism. Thanks for sharing your story with us about your step-sons alcoholism and its impact on your family. With that much trauma to the face I would tend to say that you are fortunate to not have sustained crippling injuries to your neck and/or traumatic brain injury. I agree with you that the judge probably ordered that Sproul Jr. go to some 12-step recovery meetings, as that is normal what the probation department would recommend in their report to the court. His scandals go back approximately two decades. 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