Both of BD Hymans books were deeply dishonest and motivated by money. For those who have persecuted BD in the above opinionsyou who call yourself Christians.if you are, wont you be judged for judging BD? Was it worth it? My heart goes out to B.D. When I studied with her she was very manic and had no tolerance to those who did not act in a perfect way. I am not saying what Miss Davis did was right either ,But she did not deserve that from her daughter that says she loved her, A daughter that Loves their mother does not do that. And she had to have know that, but it was more important, perhaps, to have a reasonable life. You are beyond contempt and there are simply no words to describe the greed, avarice, selfishness (what sins does she NOT exemplify?) It is not easyand you can forgive and yet still stand up to toxic behavior with an emphatic NO. & He forgives our bad choices our waywardness our sins. I find the fairytale marriage in the book a coping mechanism. I firmly believe that B D did not desire or care about her Mother recovering after the cancer and strokes. Jeremy's immediate relatives including parents, siblings, partnerships and children in the Hyman family tree. I also believe that it gives an insight into aspects of her struggles that are of interest. Her faith in Jesus Christ, she said, helped her cope with the subsequent publicity surrounding the controversial book. ummmBettes daughters name is Barbara Davis Hyman, not Bette Davis Hyman. B.D. September 7, 1956 - December 6, 2021, Amie Hyman passed away on December 6, 2021 in New Lenox, Illinois. According to People, B.D. It was ok for B.D. It suddenly became important that I write to my mother. But he and I were devout agnostics and considered religion to be for people who needed something to lean on. Did Jeremy finish grade school, get a GED, go to high school, get a college degree or masters? I am trying to contact B.D. She denied her children to see Bette when she was ill. Christian? She has an extremely arrogant heart. A pity neither Davis nor Hymans stated choice of Glenda Jackson are now able to portray Davis in a biopic based on the Hyman book, the former for being deceased, the latter for having retired from acting (and having become a member of the British Parliament). I am in no way a fan of Bette Davis. In 1991, on January 16th, Allied forces began the first phase of Operation Desert Storm. Those choices are made harder to live with when we are ridiculed and judged by others. The best evangelism comes not from hitting people over the head as happens too often, but in living your life in a way that astounds the world. Jesus was about love and not about forcing someone to him. Rand T. said it well. Christianese perhaps!! The Bible says to PROVOKE NOT your children to wrath. I think that Bette was more envious of BD and her looks than anything else. "Dear Hyman Family - It is with great sadness that I learned of Norm's passing. we begin to Show & Tell who they were during particular moments in their lives. Discover how our Uncovering Our Shared Memories: An Introduction to the Community Standards at AncientFaces I appreciate everyones opinions of BD Hyman. when he died at the age of . I get the chance to remember the Share yesterday to connect today & preserve tomorrow, Copyright 1999-2023 AncientFaces, Inc. All Rights Reserved, ADVERTISEMENT Jeremy says his grandmother was horrible in general. Hyman might be a so-called Christian. Very rarely do I ever hear people complain about how abusive their fathers were to them; maybe because they werent around? All in all, she and her husband have defied the Hollywood odds and remain happily together to this day. JoyceBette left an estate of over a million dollars and that was left to Michael and Margot. was up to. Bulman, and Karmit's three children Elana (Mark) Laichena and their child Eli, Jeremy (Devon) Bulman, and Bessie Bulman. Vicki Rilea, Canton, Il. Beloved wife of the late Joseph Hyman. Hymans authoring a book about her mother. BD a year prior to writing that book said on 60 minutes how wonderful her mother is (well was) and how she uses her moms parenting skills on her own kids. When you share, or just show that you care, the heart Of course I allowed it. Did Jeremy serve in the military or did a war or conflict interfere with his life? B.D. Leave a sympathy message to the family in the guestbook on this memorial page of Amie Hyman to show support. My two half brothers suffered almost as much as me, though my hateful stepmother did pet them, but all three of us were nevertheless subject to my Dads fits. If she really is a Christian now, that should be a great concern and in essence, she should try to be a substitute mother to her. Out of the blue my daughter simply changed and became a stranger to me. I believe B.D. When questioned about her methods she told her skeptics that people expect that behavior from her. I think each incident related was embellished. As an adopted son myself, I may attest to this. My children are sheltered. suffered. Watch. Do Educated People really take her seriously? We all agree that our mother makes Joan Crawford and Bette Davis look like perfect little angels. One other thing, as bad as my dad was, he was better than my mother, who I neve saw after the age of 11. But at home, when my husband Jeremy looked at me, he got teary-eyed and said, The Lord is real. He soon became a Christian as a result of the miracle. Phyllis Altimus Haer, 88, of Mechanicsburg, PA, passed away on Sunday, July 18, 2021, at UPMC West Shore Hospital, Mechanicsburg. At 54 now, I can look at my life and my 4 older sisters and their childrenthe affects of being in and around a toxic person are pervasive and spread from generation to generation. But then later my father was given a fatal diagnosis and they called wishing to reconcile. Several of Davis's friends commented that the depictions of events were inaccurate and others with first-hand knowledge vehemently disagreed with the allegations. Before returning to New York in 2011, Dr. Hyman and his wife, Dr.. Without doubt she loved her family. stress to any normal life. And this is a person who would have you believe she represents all that is good in life. Like, its okay that their parents were vicious and cruel, but its not okay for their children to branch out and try to make it on their own. I guess I wish Bd had chosen a different way to try and introduce her mother to Christianity. She will not be seeing her Mother, who is in heaven. B.D. While some computer systems and software did have problems, the panic was unfounded and computer life went on. Thrived on it actually. Jeremy Ashley Hyman was born on June 19, 1969 in United States to. Bette has been dead awhile now. No, not in this case. Bette was portrayed as evil & B.D. Within 100 hours, American ground troops declared Kuwait liberated. Hyman is surely intelligent enough to know that by publishing this book she would only make the issues between her and her mother worse. That is not right. Grief Support. It is one thing for a parent to try to be a good parent and make mistakes versus a parent who just is abusive. People with this issue will literally become a black hole into which they expect you to devote your time, love, and energy. Some choose not to forgive. But unlike Joan Crawfords adopted children, who were largely trophy kids trotted out for public relations purposes, I think even Hymans book confirmed Davis was, overall, a genuinely loving parent, however much Hyman may have disagreed with her mother, especially later in both their lives. I am a Christian. Also I would like to point out that to leave her smallest child screaming and begging her NOT to leave him would have made me completely change plans immediately. It is like a divorceits his side, her side and the truth is really in the middle. Refresh this page to see various historical events that occurred during Jeremy's lifetime. (1962), as the neighbor's daughter. We share yesterday, to build meaningful connections today, and preserve for tomorrow. I accidentally brought my sister together with a guy that I totally disapprove of and have actually come to hate. She was also survived by her two much-loved cats: Master Jasper and Mr. After B.D. 2 birth records, View BTW, just for the record. Welcome to AncientFaces, a com "Thank you for helping me find my family & friends again so many years after I lost them. I read B.D.s book, and personally I believed every word of it. Bette Davis obviously suffered with Borderline Personality Disorder. Having this experience made me realize something: As awful as she was, my mother had similar experiences bringing the four of us into this world. State College & Centre County, PA obituaries provided by StateCollege.com . She has help 73 years shorter than Even if all of it is true it is a disgrace and a selfish way to find healing though I doubt that was Hymans motive for writing it. She is a Godly woman, a great teacher, a powerful over comer in the body of Christ, and the smartest woman of God I have ever known. The Bible clearly says, What fellowship does light have with darkness. I give Him all the honor and glory due Him for the work He is doing in me, for His transforming grace. She took care of her mother, sister, BD and later BDs husband. Their very fame and riches deceive them. BD gives the familiar lines about not preaching, while she in fact is preaching. A born-again Christian, Hyman is the head of her own ministry and pastor of her church in Charlottesville, Virginia. And no publishing a tell-all scandal book for millions of dollars is not the way to forgive someone or heal old wounds.. as a best friend to BD Hymans eldest son Jeremy Ashley, I can tell you that that was a needed book for her to write to bring the horrible and bipolar life that was with Bette Davis. This section is to introduce Jeremy Hyman with highlights of his life and how he is remembered. I do however make the following assessment and come to this conclusion: My awful mother did an awful lot for me (pun intended). Perhaps a lot of my problems stems from cultural and religious differences between the Catholic Church and these independent, do-it-yourself sects of Christianity. Tough but fair. The Catholic Church is made up of humans and as such makes many mistakes. So it is unfair for people to judge what they cannot possibly understand since they likely never experienced anything close to what B.D. You can never take that back. Very spoiled little girl. B.D. Her husband never worked and Davis supported them. The second viewpoint, one with which I more concur personally, is that it was at least more gutsy, however cruel, to have written a book about ones parent while said parent was still alive and in command enough of her faculties to still defend herself, which Bette Davis was and did, at least partly, in her own response book, This N That. This view would also hold Hymans book was more courageous (however self-serving and monetarily motivated) than that of the book (Mommie Dearest) about one of Davis greatest film rivals, Joan Crawford, as Crawford was already deceased when Christina Crawford wrote her tell-all tome about her adoptive mother. One thing that is required of a true believer in Christ is to forgive. What schools or universities did Jeremy attend? At the age of 8, she and her family moved from Harriman to Oak Ridge where her . J. Ashley Hyman was born on June 19, 1969 and is 53 years old now. abusive childhood. She creates gossips, lies about members of her church, and covers sinful life of her son and her husband. Im sure Bette Davis wasnt perfectnone of us are. And now, 21 years later I understand who she was as a person and I love and FORGIVE her. I loved Bette Davis and still do, but my beloved mom was much like her. What schools or universities did Jeremy attend? God help you. That was some hard tough choices there. Yes, she inflicted pain but eventually I was able to look beyond my own pain and truly see HER pain. I remember the labor pain too; along with the stress and pressure I felt to regain my pre-pregnancy figure for myself, and for my husband. My guess is Bette put her daughters happiness above her image and her rights as a parents in this case. The end, however, is not so comforting. This book is far worse than Mommie Dearest which I also failed to believe. God knows I wont preach I wont even try to witness Ill just let her know whats going on in my life and that I love her. Its no secret Bette Davis was a difficult and accentric person. I believed some of it. Bette went back to work in her later years because she needed the money and was too proud to tell the world that. God is so much bigger then family feuds, he forgives. I guess it is confusing to me that their only argument is that Bette defenders should stop judging and that nobody knows what its like. No, not in the least. 2 birth, 1 death, 9 marriage, 53 divorce, View Only a devil hiding in sheeps clothing would ever do such a thing. Eventually her mother stopped writing or calling her. she does not I particularly thought references such as, mother told me how ravishing I was were a bit telling. and has made amends to Its nice to know she has found PEACE with her ministry and books. BD, I am sorry that your mother was mean to you, but thank God, you have Jesus Christ as your savior . Regardless of the timing, which I personally find disgusting, or whether or not what Hyman says is true or not she (Hyman) should have shown more Christian behavior by dealing with these very private family issues in private within the family or else by living her life privately with own family without contact to her mother. Its private and it works wonders. But no one ever kept Bette Davis, the woman, mother, or actress. I think I could have easily written a book such as Hymans and meant each and every line. and the hypocricy of a ministry is shockingseams she is selective of scriptures and never ask forgiveness for her public display of her loveless actions. Practically every night for some 8 years, she would come into my room, enraged eyes bulging, threating me in new and different ways. This she accomplished during a time when it was extremely difficult for ANY woman to land a good paying joblet alone a BLACK woman. I know Jeremy, B.D., and her two children, personally. I am reading your book now and I think you did a great job. Phyllis graduated from Indiana High . This woman Hyman is a Christian with a very poor understanding of Christian morality. J. Ashley Hyman was born on June 19, 1969 in the USA. Even they have earned our love and respect. As a young girl, she did not have the sneer she displays as an older woman. But Im not buying it. Bette Davis was a true New Englander. Having two grown children of my own, I choose to be mindful of what it was like to carry them for nine and half months: Three months of morning sickness; learning the real meaning behind the phrase; barefoot and pregnant; seemingly endless doctors visits and exams; watching everything I ate and drank, and taking daily vitamin and mineral supplements, all in an effort to bring the most healthy babies into this worldwhich, thank God I did. Even though its overall perspective was slanted toward its authors viewpoint, I am sure a large part of it was still factually accurate; else Davis would have sued her daughter. Add a Memory. found god, did she go find her sister? At the time of B.D.s birth, Bette had already been a star for quite some time! I just finished watching a program about Bette Davis on TCM. Born May 1, 1947, in Santa Ana, California, she is the daughter of Davis and artist William Grant Sherry (19141995). At my fathers funeral I began to discover just how many peoples lives my father had touched. Obviously this email is several years late and as I am an avid reader can only express surprise (and extreme pleasure) that Hyman has just now finally reached my attention. As far as her mother and her, that is not my business, but I believe B.D., quite simply and she has never steered me wrong spiritually. Who says that hindsight she doesnt regret it? Despite the acrimony of their divorce years earlier, Davis's former husband, Gary Merrill, defended Davis and claimed in an interview with CNN that B. D. was motivated by "cruelty and greed". I never read the book. This horrible treatment of physical, emotional, mental and spiritual abuse continued into my adulthood. My father recently died. One other note. Help paint a picture of Jeremy so that he is always remembered. FL 34713. jrogers (at) this domain name On February 24th, the ground war began. 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