Bp. There was no dullness in my response nor overly excited response i do believe it was appropritae. I dont know if Im overthinking the situation or just being completely selfish. On a night out we bumped into each other randomly and he looked better than ever. I met with a guy from one of freelance jobs for drinks and we proceeded to see each other 3 times in the next 4 days. Some things to think about so if he doesnt turn out to be sincere you know what to look for next time. Your article was a big help for me to understand more on this whole texting and dating thing going on. He replied yes but I feel like were not getting to know each other, were still getting a feel for one another and it creating anxiety, what should I do? This is important: Dont waste energy getting mad at someone like this, ok? Hugs. He sent me a friend request on facebook and he sends me private messages daily. He was counting down the sleeps to our first date! Its not about the waiting I just dont know if Im being a fool again I read your blog and slot of what you say rings true I know it I just dont know how to verbalize through txt my standard without possibly ruining everything this could be the guy for me please help your suggestion re: sending him a message about wanting to hear his voice Im afraid that if I do that I will scare him away as he hasnt made any attempt to do it for himself..and this laid back attitude Ive had to portray is just meaning I dont txt at all the have to appear as if Im ok and happy when he does txt which Im seriously not Im sad insideany help you could give as to what would be my best form of action to his txt silence now for about a day where mid conversation 9pm at night he simply went off radar again no goodnight or anything no hoodmorning or any txt all day yesturday and its 12.21am now and still nothing. Feel so low and like im a first class fool I need some words of wisdom xx, Hi Angelina. Not sure why on either part. I had an old friend from 38 years ago message me on Facebook. We chat for hours on end on the dating site and he asked me for my number. Once again - it highly important that you figure out early which type he is and you can do so by signing in below and reading all about the two types guys - doing so can help you see and fix these problems BEFORE they even happen - IF you know his type: Get It Here: "Understanding Men Made Simple - There Are Only Two Types Of Guys". Best, Bp, Ive met a guy (40, me 31) on a dating site live in different countries, we flirt with each other and start emailing on the site right away then we started emailing out side this was on the first week the he asked for my number and started texting and he started calling me for 2 months and a half everyday (text all day and 5-8 phone calls through the day) he got depressed (family issues) but he still call me or text me to see how I was doing then we went back to normal, we even started sort of planning trips together, we laughed and had great conversations about everything then he got depressed again and he started to be distant and he always said he was sorry but he was feeling very sad and overwhelmed, the calls stopped but he kept texting me back that was for 3 weeks I decided to email him since he doesnt call me or answer my calls he didnt answer the email but he kept texting he misses me and he thinks about me but that he is sad because of the family, I havent got a text call or email back from him in 4 days nothing and I feel sad, dont know what to do He kind of gave me the impression that he likes me but I dont know, we had plans to meet between June and August in person and I havent gone out or talked to other guys out of respect, not the kind of girl that goes out with other guys Should I give him time, forget about the guy and move on, I really need an advice, If youve read my article, Monica, you know the answer. Hi. We had dates weekly and lunch dates . He always starts the conversation everyday, with exception to yesterday when I emailed. He later gave me his number so that we moved to whatsapp. We had fantastic conversation, and he was certainly attractive on the intellectual front, and on the physical front, he wasnt a 10, but certainly had many qualities to make up for this, and I could find myself being attracted to him as the whole package. We had a great chat, enjoy our dinner, talked about everything in the 90 minutes or so. This call was not totally out of my comfort zone, as we grew up talking to each . He said he was just telling me so that I wont get hurt if we become so close. I think you should answer thanks but no thanks. You deserve better. You dont need permission for that. Or testing you. Lying about himself and not being able to live up to those lies. He told me that it was because he had set those profiles up and then after setting them up a few days later they would lock him out and he couldnt enter them again therefore he had to create other profiles. I would love for things to work out for us. Should I reach out and just ask if his cat is ok or move on? I met my husband online and almost all the women Ive helped find love met their partners online. He Keeps Texting But Doesn't Ask You Out - Love in 90 Days I am not feeling like he is moving into pinged territory. Yes, its a difficult but meaningful lesson. Sorry I cant answer your question. But my question is this? Your wish for that kind of first date is lovely, and does sometimes happen. I see him maybe once a week, and when we do see each other he is so sweet , he cooks for me, we have nice conversations and we have a great time. This last time in April told me he didnt have time for a relationship because his Father was sick. Im 45, tall, blond and quite attractive and dont have a problem getting men. Weve have been communicating through text via website. I hope you do that often so you can have conversations and plan dates. But I gotta figure out the financials of this trip I dont want to take. A man who is interested will show you. At what point do I assume shes maybe not interested in going out again but too nice to say so? If you cant do it for him, maybe you can do it for yourself. You arent in a relationship with this guy and hes shown no real signs that its what he wants. I love this analogy of the trunk. Listen to her. There's more than one way to deal with family inflation and that's to deal with the things that fundamentally affected their everyday cost beyond the . I have been texting someone I met on tinder for about 6 weeks now. I didnt hear from him for almost a week and then he sent me a message asking if I forgot him. Thank you so much in advance! It felt like a game or maybe Id pushed him too much, but I told him I didnt think it was going to work out because I was looking for a relationship and not just endless texting. Because you're learn why men DO feel like they have to pull away even after he tells you he likes you. Bp. He said I will text you when Im home. Iam not in the position to end my marriage, What should you do about him, Lorrie? Why is he suddenly going quiet now? When I started doing this, my God did l start to attract all sorts of good in my life. No, dont ignore! Hi Charlene. I dont know how to fix this or if its even fixable. We became Facebook friends. This sound like a very very textbook scam please dont respond as this will let him have your email address and you will be at risk of being sent a virus or worse Hi Susan. I dont want to loose him and have become a bit reliant myself on his friendship. I met someone on a dating website. If he comes around, cool. I texted him on Xmas eve (one week, and he had not contacted me) a playful text about him missing snow angels and hoping santa had him on the nice list this year. And btw, you say youre not that into him. However, sometimes he blows hot when were together, and sometimes hes closed off. Dont know. Before you stir yourself up, take a beat. He was my surgeon, so we met in a professional relation (not good). I just see guys the text alot as weak. Or maybe it is that Im already 55? Still nothing. Dont wait, keeping meeting other people. I should mention he has asked to meet up but I said no last-minute because I was hung up with assignments, I feel like its moving too fast. I dont want to be responsive to anyone at all hours of the day or night. He asked did I want him to? Remember, it does have its uses, but its not for courting or dating. He went through great lengths in setting up to talk with me but I was not Interested at the time. What I would say is that texting is not relating. However, we reconnected few weeks later. I met a guy over a year ago at a football game and we hit it off. He said I dont know I like you a lot. Whether its because they found someone else, were just playing or because they got scared thats 100% immaterial. We message and texted for a few weeks before going on our first date. We got on so well togther id like to see him again but i also know he needs space for his family matter How can you tell the difference when the sudden silence is loaded and when it's safe not to sweat it? If you find that they are consistent in other areas, such as planning dates and including you in their life, you probably don't have anything to worry about, she says. Move on. If I dont respond, then he typically asks follow up questions. He was just a bit forward, according to him. Regardless, when he didnt respond you should have just moved on, my friend. I told him I had a lot going on and he said talk to me tell me. We texted from 2015 to recent Sept 2017. I would absolutely love to do it again (upping the ante with guns of course )! You didnt know him and put so much into him. Simply say something like this if he seems to be stuck on texting: It would be great to hear the voice connected to these great texts and emails. I recommend it! Thank you, for this! But, we still have not been able to get together after 2 months. In his first text he expressed that he wanted to catch up sometime. step back from this and look at how you (mis)connected with this guy. He said he started to date someone around the time he met me. And btwwhat about him coming to yours? We dont text much except after a walk and its nice . They talked on and off all day. Youd be happy to talk on the phone or meet up. Take care. I said when do you like and he said tomorrow or Monday. He seems like an honest, caring and kind guy (we are both 25). I think you know the answer, Mary. I dont feel that is the case anymore, nor did i deep down. The next day, I thought he would at least say something, but nothing for the whole day. Are you maybe overlooking red flags?